My birthday was made special by hearing from friends, near and far, as well as family. The atmosphere here was chilly and quiet, which made the contact with friends more meaningful. Over a period of three days, I receive lots of special calls and cards, as well as a hoard of messages by social media, which for me means Facebook. I have to admit that it's also nice to hear from acquaintances who would not otherwise even know it was my birthday; but by knowing, sent good wishes, too. The Wednesday before I got together with a friend for lunch and she treated, which was unexpected and very thoughtful. A truly heartfelt "thank you" to everyone who was in contact......it meant more than you know.
The month of January has been as chilly inside as outside. My mother has hardly spoken to me, certainly not civilly, since early in the month when, once again, I had to tell her that she couldn't go home and stay on her own.......nor will she consent to a visit if she can't stay! She saw her doctor yesterday and we discussed it again. She said all of her relatives were in NC, etc. and would take care of her, and the doctor asked if any had asked her to live with them since she needed full time care, whether family or paid assistance. I said that being in NC wasn't possible and she didn't want to be with me, so what was Plan C? That plan would be assisted living, which is not covered my Medicare and very expensive (and she won't consider selling the house to afford that option, nor is she likely to ever volunteer to go anyplace where she might meet new people). Another option might be a nursing home, which under certain circumstances could be paid by Medicaid. Anyway, I wanted it all clearly stated to her one more time in hopes that she will be able to process some of it and improve her outlook, though I'm not holding my breath. I'm realizing more and more that there are going to be difficult decisions somewhere down the line.
We have had a few good moments. Several weekends ago, we went out to Ridgeland to Maranatha Farms animal rescue. They mostly rescue dogs, and there were dogs of every size, shape and description. The best feature of the place was the space. Everything was fenced, but the dogs had lots of space to run, play and otherwise cavort. It was wonderful to see and, if I didn't already have a house full of cats, there was one (Penny) that would have come home with me!! It was a pleasant way to spend a beautiful day and my mother was as pleasant and sociable as you please!
As I'm writing this, there are three men in the back of the house working feverishly to replace my carpets. They were cutting it in the driveway and I was pleased to see that the color in a large block is as nice, if not nicer, than in a six inch swatch. These guys have obviously done this before.....they are speedy, pleasant and professional. The company was recommended by a Living Liberal friend who was in the flooring business and, so far, he has been right on target. In preparation for this, we were asked to move all of the small items off dressers, etc. We actually moved as much as we could, leaving only the heavy furniture. Everything was piled in the living and dining rooms, and as I was schlepping things in, I was registering which items would be returned and which would be discarded. Six PM update: the carpets were in by 1:30 and they look great and smell fresh. The guys were great and the job well done. I'm so glad it's done!
Am including this photo of Chloe because it's just too cute to omit! i think she is as amazed as I at a cleared desk!