Wednesday, September 12, 2012

September Update

My mother and I are in NC.  We came up today (Saturday) and will probably go back on Tuesday.  She is always wanting to come home long enough to "get some things done"......meaning to come and stay.  Whenever we come for a short time, she "doesn't know where to start".  That truly is a problem when one is not willing to part with anything.  So, here we are, sitting in the midst of it all, which is really what she wanted anyway.....except she wants to do it until she dies!

Anyway, as those of you who know me might guess, my major source of enjoyment for the last few days has been the Democratic Convention.  And, boy, was it good or what!  It has been MSNBC or C-Span 24/7 except for the nightly analysis  by Stewart and Colbert!!  Could the differences in the parties and the people they represent be any more clearly defined than they were by these two conventions?   The energy was wonderful and exciting.  The diversity was great to see and the speeches were fantastic.....Michelle set the standard and Bill knocked the ball our of the park!  I thought Joe Biden was unusually sedate, but I think he had to set up the President, who did a wonderful job.  Those were certainly the highlights (along with Deval Partick and Jennifer Granholm), but keep in my that I start early and watch C-Span so I can hear all of the lesser known speakers, too.  I love it....and it could not have gone better!

My hope is that reasonable conservatives will finally be moved away from the dark side.  In fact, I was encouraged by a neighbor whom I met during my walks. I hadn't seen her in a while and when I was out a few days ago she passed by in her car and pulled over.  We usually chat about our mothers, but somehow we got onto the economy.   She described herself as an Independent and was talking about how bad the economy was where her daughter lived, which I took as a complaint against the President.  I said, "It sounds like you're leaning toward Romney".  I hardly had it out before she said, "NO!".....she thinks they're all psychopaths...her word, not mine. We then had a great rant!  It was fun and I think we were both happy to find a kindred spirit.  My hope is that she is a reflection of how other Independents and reasonable conservatives will view things.  I was encouraged....though I don't think we can take anything for granted.

I'm not sure how else I've used my time or where it has gone.  There is always something to do.  Now that my mother's vision has gone, she needs help with everything.....with things as simple as pouring coffee or milk, doing her hair before going out, selecting earrings/ jewelry (I tease her because she's meticulous about selecting her jewelry and then may forget her teeth!), getting shoes on the right feet.......all of the little things.  So everything takes more time and patience, and it feels that as soon as I get seated or settled into something, my services are needed.  While I have nothing worthy of mention, I've never stopped.....and some things just drag on and on: 
  • I'm still working on the Aid and Attendance Benefits from the VA.  We just got her medical exam done last Friday.  There is still one more piece of information to provide and that process should be complete....Inshallah!
  • Weeks and weeks ago we/I pulled and dug up four huge bushes in my front yard, leaving a bare space for all this time.  This past week we bought azaleas (thus precipitating the story of my feeble mind and the two Ronnie's!) and planted them.  Believe me, this isn't my thing but it is something my mother enjoys and it gets her outside........and, if I have company, I really don't mind it.....I just don't know anything about it.  There are still areas in the back yard that "she" wants to do, which means more digging for me!
From this....and overgrown mass of bushes (May)  
To lack of ability or knowledge!  (June)
To this....Two Sky Pencils and four Azaleas.....even now you have to use your imagination!!
I'm hoping these will look nice once they grow and become full. I have to come up with some mulch or ground cover and there is space for a bird still more to do, but I have a feeling it will be an ongoing project.

We're home now (Wednesday) and had a relatively good visit.  My mother and I had our usual kerfuffles, but lots of the relatives visited and that part was unusual and fun.  I came to the realization that nothing is going to change with the house......she will not sell it or clear things out.  I keep thinking that if she did one or both, it would worry her less.  She is going to worry about something all the time and there is nothing I can do to prevent that.  Again, it is something I understand intellectually but it's very difficult not to be drawn in to trying to "fix it".  Anyway, I'm happy to be home!

Before we went up, we got a little marker for Tuffy.  He's buried between two Sago Palms right outside the sun room.

We brought back with us a small gym that my mother had for her kitties.....and they took right to it, although it's been empty since the photo shoot.

For something totally different......I love this, both the picture and the words, and am sending it your way!

Set your life on fire.
Seek those who fan your flames.